A conversation about finding your soul wisdom and moving forward fearlessly.
“Get in touch with your wild woman,” says Kaya Singer, Author of Wiser and Wilder: A Soulful Path for Visionary Women Entrepreneurs. This idea attracts me – this quest to find that inner visionary wild woman, to tune in to the center, the wisdom, the intuition – this quest has consumed me for more than three years now and has been a steady undercurrent in my life since as long as I can remember.
‘Where is that wild woman,’ I ask, much as I asked as a child, ‘where is this soul I’m supposed to have?’ And then while studying metaphysics: ‘Where is this core, this enlightened consciousness, this I am? ‘
And so, I say to Kaya singer, “Let’s talk about a woman’s soul wisdom: where did it go? Why is it when I look for it, it doesn’t pop up and say, ‘Hey. Listen to me. I’m that consciousness, that observer behind all else you do in life; I’m She Who Is. And I have some wild, juicy and powerful advice for you.’”
Kaya Singer, a coach, author, artist and founder of Awakening Business, is not thrown by this question. “That woman is there in all of us,” Singer says, “and she has no fear. She is at the center but she is sabotaged by self-doubt.” Then add to that fear, worry, fatigue and lack of support.
Get Past the Blocks to Your Inner Wisdom
Women do not lose touch with their inner wise woman, but what happens is that emotions come up first, blocking the voice of that wild woman. These emotions may be the end result of rejections, abuses, criticism, and other voices of expectations and limitations.
Regardless of where they originated, they are now loud and insistent; they urge us to hide away, to stay on the safe path, and they provide excuses for not taking action. Oh, so many excuses – My family needs all my time; if I don’t make dinner no one eats healthily; I can’t wallow in my own needs; I have a job that saps all my energy; I should be helping my daughter, grandchild, cousin, sibling; the world is full of smart people — they don’t need to hear my voice; no one ever listens to me at home, why would anyone out the world care what I have to say? And the inner dialog goes on. And on.
And yet there is that time in life when that wild woman who resides deep inside of us emerges for a bit, opens a window and says, Here it is, a window of opportunity for you – Go ahead, take your turn now. Do something just for you. Fly.
All of these thoughts churn about in my head as I talk with this wise and wild woman, Kaya Singer. How do you get in touch with this wild center, this soul wisdom, I ask.
“Some part of your very being knows exactly what you are meant to do. If you trusted this,…you would grow in strength and depth and begin to shine.” ~ Kaya Singer
Discover Your Own Wild Purpose
The beauty of Kaya Singer’s advice, especially for a down-to-earth woman like me, is that she joins the soul wisdom to practical wisdom. She coaches us to listen to this wild inner woman and then to take steps required to put her wild ideas into motion.
But first, there’s that listening and allowing emotions to present themselves. When those emotions do appear, see them as signposts along the path. “Transmute the emotions that arise from self-doubt and self-sabotage into intuition,” she says. “This requires that you feel, then go deeper, learn, transmute, and become stronger.”
Pause and listen when you hear the self-criticism, the voices that try to slow you down. Stop for a moment. Stand up to the deep-seated nay-sayer that says, No, you can’t do that: You’re not talented, you’re too old, you don’t have time, people will think you are ridiculous, it costs too much. Ask, how does this make me feel? What does that criticism mean for me? Confront the depth and power of that voice. And transmute it. Use it to access your intuition, the wild fearless woman caged deep inside all of us. Defy it to get to your center of power.
Kaya Singer has wrestled with her own self-doubts and she’s developed tools that she shares in her books, entrepreneurial coaching and talks. From creating relationship circles to drawing business and personal mandalas, she taps into the creative side of us to access the Wiser & Wilder Woman.
What is delightful about this woman, who calls herself a crone — a woman in the crone stage of life — is that she shares what she knows and how she travelled, and continues to travel, this path of purpose and joy in this stage of life. And how she does this fearlessly!
Singer’s book, Wiser and Wilder: A Soulful Path for Visionary Women Entrepreneurs, dives into all of these ideas and more. It’s a practical, creative guide to finding your way to your inner wiser wilder woman, offering creative exercises to take you deeper and then to help you get practical and take wise steps forward into your next phase in life, whether that phase is an encore business, a new focus, or new adventures.
Kaya Singer reports on Amazon that her personal mission is “to help women to stop hiding, open their voices, and invest in themselves and their own success.” She has been a small business owner (Awakening Business) for 40 years as well as an artist and facilitator. She is well-known for her women’s retreats and mentoring for visionary women who are ready to shift and be empowered.
Jude Harlan, founder of Me-At Last, Women On Purpose, is a publisher, editor and journalist. She pursues her passion here at Me-AtLast.com, empowering women in our search for inner strength, purpose and the power to be ourselves – to take our turn at the helm of our lives. Find out more about her on our About page.